“I was never lost, but I was bewildered once for three days” – Daniel Boone
Life direction can be difficult to find when we are not sure where we are going, and this can get in the way of our optimal functioning. When this happens, we can feel “lost”. In reality, we cannot be anywhere but the current place and time. Being “lost” implies we should be somewhere else, or that we are absent from where we are. The only antidote for this is being present.
I like this quote from Daniel Boone, which was his response to the question about whether he was ever lost in the woods. I believe there is a great deal of wisdom in his response. If we stop and look closely, we can see exactly where we are at any given moment. The situations we are in and the relationships we have are right in front of us. Because of this moment-to-moment awareness, we are therefore never “lost”.
Jon Kabat-Zinn wrote a book entitled “Wherever you go, there you are”, which embodies the idea that we have the capacity to be ever present with ourselves and our lives. He writes, “The best way to capture moments is to pay attention. This is how we cultivate mindfulness. Mindfulness means being awake. It means knowing what you are doing.” True that we may be bewildered or confused about which way to go at times, but finding ourselves in the present situation helps to gain perspective in how we can engage our lives to our best ability. In fact, by allowing a state of not knowing, we are given the widest berth for developing awareness to know.