“The eye through which I see God is the same eye through which God sees me; my eye and God’s eye are one eye, one seeing, one knowing, one love.”
― Meister Eckhart, Sermons of Meister Eckhart
People misperceive things in their lives. Why they misperceive is often complicated. Reasons may include things such as projections from past experience onto current situations, a lack of seeing the data in front of them, or a rejection of the data because they don’t want to see it. Whatever the reason, this causes problems, particularly in relationships with others. What makes things even more complicated is that the truth for one can truly be different than the truth for another. When the belief that the relative truth for one is the absolute truth for all, we mistakenly believe others are wrong and problems ensue. This is like looking through a pair of glasses that are smudged with grease for years. We see the world in a distorted way, and because time passes we forget that they are smudged and begin to believe that the distorted picture is truth.
What is needed is a good lens cleaning. Wipe off the old grime, and see a different picture. We can learn to do this by getting feedback from others, examining our own distorted views, and learning to let go of the belief that our thoughts are absolute truths. Easier said than done much of the time, but entirely possible. The first step is to acknowledge that our lens is smudged with our projections. The rest comes with consistent cleaning and polishing. The more often we do this, the less we have to wipe clean in the future.